Who do you think you are? Our actions tell us more about who we think we are and what we believe we deserve than what we say with our words. So many times in life we strike out to reach goals without understanding the who behind the what. What do I mean by that? I had a client once who emphatically stated she was going to be a millionaire.
It sounded good but it was quite evident that she lacked the confidence in believing she was a millionaire. She failed to adequately prepare her confidence in who she was in order to be the millionaire she desired to be. All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence.
In her case confidence would’ve come if she took the time to understand who is a millionaire. The only difference between who we are and what we want be become are our mindsets. And self-talk repeated day in and day out is what creates our mindsets.
Who we believe we are governs our actions, and the more actions we take to reinforce the mindset of who we want to become the quicker we will become it. For instance in the case of my client, I asked her “so as a millionaire who much money will you make each month, each week, each day?” She couldn’t tell me.
I also asked her, “How often do you go shopping? Does your shopping match the patterns of a millionaire or a day laborer?” I’m pretty sure millionaires go shopping far more often than day laborers. Why? Because they have money to spend so they won’t stop themselves from going shopping because they don’t have any enough money.
What about investments? I’m pretty sure a millionaire is pretty savvy on investing and/or knows how to spot a good investor. What activities do they participate in? Again, I’m sure the average millionaire’s leisure time looks drastically different than a day laborer.
Am I suggesting that you go out and have champagne taste on a Kool-Aid income? Most certainly not. However, I am suggesting that you can acquire the mindset via your imagination. There is nothing stopping you from going shopping with your fake money and pretending you are spending.
There is nothing stopping you from identifying the lifestyle habits and mindsets of millionaires. In this case one way to build confidence would be to determine which occupations are most often held by millionaires. And finding the answers to the following questions, where do they typically live geographically? Where is the location of their homes within those cities?
How do they entertain in their homes? What leisure activities do they participate in? What about fine arts? What type of cars do they drive typically? Where/how do they most often vacation? How do they participate in community involvement?
What’s their education? What clubs and organizations do they belong? Which committees and boards are they involved? The list goes on. By taking time to understand the mindset of who you want to become increases confidence and destroy fears.
The more you understand the who behind the person you want to become and take action to become the person you want to be the more you’ll believe you are already the person you want to become. And the more action you begin to take then the more action you’ll take automatically. Want to be a millionaire? Then think and act like a millionaire.
Want to be a wife/husband? Then think and act like one. Want to perfectly healthy? Then think and act like a healthy person. Want to be fit? Then think and act like a fit person. Albert Einstein nailed it when he said, “We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.”
In other words, we can’t get to where we are going thinking in the same manner that landed us where we currently are. Need help cultivating a plan of action to help build your confidence and eliminate your fears? Click here and schedule your mentoring session today.