One thing that is inherent on the path to reaching our goals are setbacks. We must learn to accept that it is not always going to be smooth sailing on the path to reaching our goals. And the way we handle our setbacks will not only determine if we are successful in reaching our goals but also how quickly we obtain them.
It seems the greater the desire to reach a goal the more intense the emotional distress we feel when we encounter a setback. And the more apt we are to take our eyes off the goal and dwell on the setback itself. I think part of the reason we do this is because we have the tendency to believe there is one set path to our goals and we hang our success on it happening that one way.
Take for instance weight loss, most people hang their success on the scale saying they lost weight instead of looking for and celebrating other clues that success is imminent. I think the most powerful thing we can do is to learn to recognize, measure, and celebrate progress.
Take the example of weight loss again, if we encounter a setback on the scale and that’s our only measure of success then there is a high chance we are going to feel some type of way. And it won’t be in the family of encouraged, determined, motivated, or optimistic. However, if we had other measures of success then we would be more apt to keep setbacks in proper perspective.
Do you have a goal that you are working towards? Have you encountered setbacks? Have they left you feeling some type of way? Rest assured a frantic, anxious, worried mind won’t give you the get up and go you need to increase your momentum towards your goals. I encouraged you to come up with at least three measures of success to help you realize that you are on track towards meeting your goals.
Additionally, I want you to write a list of all the improvements and/or progress you have made since working towards your goal. Then I want you to release any preconceived notions of ….it has to be in exactly this way for it to be a success.
A very well known quote says “Obstacles are what we see when we take our eyes off the goal.” Lastly, I want to encourage you to focus all the more on the goal whenever you encounter a setback. The more you’re able to concentrate on what it is that you want to accomplish with a calm and untroubled mind the more pathways to success will emerge and it will be easier for you to practice gratitude on how far you have come along your path to success.
I implore you….Do not let a setback stop you! Stop, readjust, re-calibrate, regroup, review, reassess, relax, release, reformulate, and restart. Confident expectation of a desired outcome is the most potent means of bringing it to fruition. KEEP GOING!