Speak to yourself like you would a friend in times of crisis. One of the first things we say to others in times of crisis is “Everything is going to be okay”. And then we proceed to point all the good things we can possibly think of for whatever the situation may be. We need to get in the habit of doing the same for ourselves.
We need to tell ourselves everything is going to be okay and then look for the seed of benefit. Shakespeare said “Nothing is neither bad or good, but the thinking that makes it so.” I agree. I know it’s easier said than done but it really does come down to perception and how we choose to think about anything that is going on at any given point and time in our lives.
Napoleon Hill sage advice was “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” I have found this to be very true. However, often times we can’t see it while we’re going through. But if we would just cultivate the habit of stepping back, taking a deep breath, and actively looking for ways/reasons the situation can serve as a benefit to us we might break free from thinking a situation is bad and possibly getting stuck in feeling some type of way.
The next time you feel as if the world is on your shoulders take a deep breath, and say to yourself I’m going to be okay, list all the possible positive outcomes, and then determine where you need to start to turn it around so that you can feel better. And remember whatever you tell yourself can lift you up or tear you down. Be kind and gentle with yourself until you’re on the other side of troubled waters. Remember, I’m going to be okay.