How Do You See Yourself?

The art of practicing self awareness helps us to see ourselves, catch ourselves in the act, and be consistent in our walk and talk.

If we see ourselves as unsucessful we will perform unsuccessfully. If we see ourselves as unworthy… we perform in a way which reflects it.

Conversely if we see ourselves worthy we perform in a way which reflects it. If we see ourselves as winners we perform as winners.

See yourself being, having and doing what your heart desires and you’ll perform consistently in the manner of who you want to become, having what you want, and doing what you want to do.

Master Your MOJO!

Master your MOJO and defend your territory.  It’s time to get motivated and get MOVING!  What is MOJO you may ask?

MOJO – a quality that attracts people to you and makes you successful and full of energy.

It’s time to master your MOJO when you need the confidence to achieve your goals.  Life can sometimes rock us to our core and leave us feeling as if we’re victims, helpless, and unable to transform our circumstances into the ones we desire.

Nothing like looking for a job, experiencing a failed relationship, battling with obesity, receiving failing grades, facing rejection, or just encountering setback after setback to feel like we have NOJO – No Options Just Obstacles.

Are you firmly balanced or do you need to gain a more solid footing?  Are you mastering your MOJO or nursing your NOJO? Are you feeling down, discouraged, or disappointed? Then it’s time to master your MOJO and become highly adaptive and relentless in achieving your goals in life.

Here are 5 surefire ways to master your MOJO:

  1. PICTURE WHAT’S POSSIBLE – focus your undivided attention on all the positive possibilities. Imagine all the many different ways how it can work out positively for you.
  2. SWEETEN YOUR STRENGTHS – love what you do well and do it more often.  This helps us to like ourselves and when we like ourselves ….others like us too and want to help us reach our goals.
  3. TAKE TITANIC ACTION – take massive action towards your goals.  Action builds confidence and courage.  Keep taking action until all doubt and fears are dissipated and you like what you do.
  4. CIRCUMVENT YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES – give no thought or energy to current circumstances.  Affirm, affirm, affirm that you can be happy and thrive in any environment. Remember the you are bigger than your circumstances.
  5. TRAIN YOUR BRAIN – Junk in – Junk Out.  Train your brain the procedures necessary to reach your goals and the perspectives necessary to like how you are achieving them.  Magical things happen when preparation meets opportunity.  Train your brain and be prepared.

Your MOJO is a tremendous ALLY.

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Assert I AM!

Hicks says “We don’t have what we want because we’re not a match to it.” Einstein says “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind/level of thinking we used when we created them.” Marianne Williamson says “You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.”

We’ve heard old ways won’t open new doors.  And in order to have something different we must do something different.  That’s what this month’s challenge is about changing our thoughts to have something different. 

Maltz says “Our self image,  strongly held,  essentially determines what we become.” Far too often we overlook the connection between our self image and our results in life.  If we don’t have the essence of what we desire in our lives then who do we need to become to have it? 

Do we need to become confident? Do we need to become savvy, alluring, magnetic,  innovative,  charismatic,  flexible,  positve,  optimistic,  consistent,  determined,  victory minded, courageous,  faithful,  peaceful? 

I AM ASSERTIONS are a powerful tool in helping to chisel,  cultivate,  transform, or enhance our self image.  I will be re-incorporating them into my daily routine.  

We choose who and what we will become by who we identify with with our I AM assertions. Be sure they align with your deepest desires.  Don’t believe me….. remember Muhammed Ali? I am the greatest and so it was unto him.

Polish Your Mind

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It seems as if it’s a natural tendency for the mind to want to keep itself busy feverishly jumping from one thing to the next.  Most of us would rather do almost anything rather than spend time in reflection and solitude.  Stephen Covey in 7 Habits of Highly Effective People included  Sharpen the Saw as the 7th Habit.  He outlines it as having a balanced program for self-renewal in the four areas of your life: physical, social/emotional, and spiritual.

The premise being that a woodsman can cut far more wood with less exertion and time with a sharpened saw than with a dull one.  Covey included the following activities for mental renewal: Learning, reading, writing, and teaching. I would like to extend this list and add  reflection to it.  I believe it is a critical part of being able to keep our minds polished and in tip-top shape.

It’s in reflection that we can measure our indicators of success and/or setbacks.   Margaret J Wheatley says “Without reflection we go blindly on our way, creating more unintended consequences, and failing to achieve anything useful.”

It’s in reflection that we can formulate new ways to approach life’s problems.  As Albert Einstein said….”We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.” Reflection can help us uncover our level of thinking and help us to understand the areas we may need assistance in order to grow.

It’s also in reflection that we better understand our shadow self.  It’s our shadow that so many times trips us up without us even recognizing its role in unwanted feelings, events, and circumstances.  Reflection can reveal to us our hidden fears, insecurities, emotional wounds and afford us the opportunity to heal them.

An unknown author said it quite well…”Self-reflection is a humbling process. It’s essential to find out why you think, say, and do certain things…then better yourself.”  And another unknown author believes that “Unless you learn to face your own shadows, you will continue to see them in others, because the world outside you is only a reflection of the world inside you.”

When we cultivate the habit of polishing our mind with reflection we become our best selves, we become more compassionate, we grow in courage and understanding, and we unleash the power within.  If you tend to jump from one thing to the next with out pausing for the cause, I encourage you to incorporate time to engage in reflection into your schedule.

Cheers! ♥♥♥

I Am Going to Be Okay


Speak to yourself like you would a friend in times of crisis.  One of the first things we say to others in times of crisis is “Everything is going to be okay”.  And then we proceed to point all the good things we can possibly think of for whatever the situation may be.  We need to get in the habit of doing the same for ourselves.

We need to tell ourselves everything is going to be okay and then look for the seed of benefit.  Shakespeare said “Nothing is neither bad or good, but the thinking that makes it so.”  I agree.  I know it’s easier said than done but it really does come down to perception and how we choose to think about anything that is going on at any given point and time in our lives.

Napoleon Hill sage advice was “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” I have found this to be very true.  However, often times we can’t see it while we’re going through.  But if we would just cultivate the habit of stepping back, taking a deep breath, and actively looking for ways/reasons the situation can serve as a benefit to us we might break free from thinking a situation is bad and possibly getting stuck in feeling some type of way.

The next time you feel as if the world is on your shoulders take a deep breath, and say to yourself I’m going to be okay, list all the possible positive outcomes, and then determine where you need to start to turn it around so that you can feel better.   And remember whatever you tell yourself can lift you up or tear you down.  Be kind and gentle with yourself until you’re on the other side of troubled waters.  Remember, I’m going to be okay.

Choose to Follow Through


It’s so easy for us to lie to ourselves and not keep promises that we make to ourselves.  I just restarted doing the magical practices from the book The Magic by Rhonda Byrne.  And I almost skipped doing today’s practice which by the way is only day 4. However, I pushed through and I did it.  Yet if someone else were to tell me they were going to do something for me and they broke their promise repeatedly, I know that I would feel some type of way.

It’s time for me to do better because each time I tell myself that I’m going to do something and then don’t follow thru….I erode my self-trust and my self-confidence.  When we resolve to do a thing and then we do it without fail, we feel at our best.  We trust ourselves  and when we trust ourselves we feel good and are willing to tackle more things.

So no more of this haphazardly saying I will do better and then not following through.  This week I resolve to take better care of my well-being and my health.  Health is our greatest asset and I was reminded today from today’s magical practice to be thankful for health.  And it has inspired me to take it up a notch and commit to eating for fuel not flavor, moving my body, and being extra picky about feeling good.

How about you?  Do you need to work on this area too?  Do you need to commit to choose to follow through?

Build Confidence and Destroy Fear

Who do you think you are?  Our actions tell us more about who we think we are and what we believe we deserve than what we say with our words.  So many times in life we strike out to reach goals without understanding the who behind the what.  What do I mean by that?  I had a client once who emphatically stated she was going to be a millionaire.

It sounded good but it was quite evident that she lacked the confidence in believing she was a millionaire.  She failed to adequately prepare her confidence in who she was in order to be the millionaire she desired to be.  All confidence is acquired, developed.  No one is born with confidence.

In her case confidence would’ve come if she took the time to understand who is a millionaire.  The only difference between who we are and what we want be become are our mindsets.  And self-talk repeated day in and day out is what creates our mindsets.

Who we believe we are governs our actions, and the more actions we take to reinforce the mindset of who we want to become the quicker we will become it.  For instance in the case of my client, I asked her “so as a millionaire who much money will you make each month, each week, each day?”  She couldn’t tell me.

I also asked her, “How often do you go shopping?  Does your shopping match the patterns of a millionaire or a day laborer?”  I’m pretty sure millionaires go shopping far more often than day laborers.  Why?  Because they have money to spend so they won’t stop themselves from going shopping because they don’t have any enough money.

What about investments?  I’m pretty sure a millionaire is pretty savvy on investing and/or knows how to spot a good investor.  What activities do they participate in?  Again, I’m sure the average millionaire’s leisure time looks drastically different than a day laborer.

Am I suggesting that you go out and have champagne taste on a Kool-Aid income?  Most certainly not.  However, I am suggesting that you can acquire the mindset via your imagination.  There is nothing stopping you from going shopping with your fake money and pretending you are spending.

There is nothing stopping you from identifying the lifestyle habits and mindsets of millionaires.   In this case one way to build confidence would be to determine which occupations are most often held by millionaires.  And finding the answers to the following questions, where do they typically live geographically?  Where is the location of their homes within those cities?

How do they entertain in their homes? What leisure activities do they participate in? What about fine arts? What type of cars do they drive typically?  Where/how do they most often vacation?  How do they participate in community involvement?

What’s their education?  What clubs and organizations do they belong?  Which committees and boards are they involved?  The list goes on.  By taking time to understand the mindset of who you want to become increases confidence and destroy fears.

The more you understand the who behind the person you want to become and take action to become the person you want to be the more you’ll believe you are already the person you want to become. And the more action you  begin to take then the more action you’ll take automatically.  Want to be a millionaire?  Then think and act like a millionaire.

Want to be a wife/husband?  Then think and act like one.  Want to perfectly healthy?  Then think and act like a healthy person.  Want to be fit?  Then think and act like a fit person.  Albert Einstein nailed it when he said, “We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them.”

In other words, we can’t get to where we are going thinking in the same manner that landed us where we currently are.  Need help cultivating a plan of action to help build your confidence and eliminate your fears?  Click here and schedule your mentoring session today.

Cheers! ♥♥♥

Do You Suffer from In-A-Minute Syndrome?


Martin Luther proclaimed “How soon not now, becomes never.” Edward Young said it this way “Procrastination is the thief of time.” In the book “It’s About Time”, Dr. Linda Sapadin says: “Procrastination inevitably diminishes one’s self-esteem, which results in a loss of optimism, happiness, and creative energy.  People who suffer from chronic procrastination and do nothing about it find it increasingly difficult to strive toward personal goals or, often, even to formulate them.”

The real harm with In-a-Minute syndrome aka Procrastination is how it affects us negatively both mentally and emotionally.  Each year, countless people join in the timeless tradition of setting New Year’s resolutions to only see one year come in and go out with little to no significant changes.    Failing to realize as Nadia Boulanger put it “Life is denied by lack of attention, whether it be to cleaning windows or trying to write a masterpiece.”

The bottom line is we must establish a “DO IT NOW” mindset to see any significant changes and/or success in our lives.  Author Kerry Gleeson promotes that cultivating this type of habit is intended to reinforce an action-oriented lifestyle: to become more decisive, to start, and to stay in motion.

It makes perfect sense to me since procrastination appears as either indecisiveness, lack of motivation/discipline to start, or to keep going once we’ve started.  The interesting part about procrastination is the various thought patterns that accompany it.

Most of us tend to exaggerate how long an unpleasant task may take or how bad it really is.  While others are afraid to either make a decision or suffer from perfectionism with the mindset of “If I cannot complete it perfectly, when why bother to do it at all”.  In other words, the latter are afraid to make a mistake.

I believe with the new year one mantra can set 2016 apart from any other year and that is “Do it now means do it now!”  By learning to do it now, you’ll short circuit the habit of procrastination.  So the remedy for those who suffer with In-A-Minute syndrome is as follows:

Doubt, of whatever kind, can be ended by action alone.                                  – Thomas Carlyle

DECIDE WHAT NEEDS TO BE DONE -Most people are afraid to be decisive.  Fearing what consequences they may have to live with as a result.  If need be, make a pros and cons list and determine the worst possible consequences of any decision you could possibly make and then ask yourself can you life with it.  If the answer is yes, go for it.  Be decisive, take action, get on with the business of living your life to the fullest.


The greatest amount of wasted time is the time of not getting started.   – Dawson Trotman

GET STARTED – Walt Disney has been credited for saying “The stopping is in the starting.” Most time management gurus recommend adopting the worst first method to accomplishing tasks.  Choose the task you enjoy least and do it first.  M. Scott Peck calls acting on unpleasant tasks first as “delaying gratification”.  He also points out that people who procrastinate tend to seek immediate gratification.


Perfectionists are extreme in their thinking:  If they’re going to do something, they reason, they should do the best possible job that can be done.  There is no acceptable “middle ground.”….Faced with a demanding task, perfectionists are inevitably torn between two extremes: giving all they’ve got, or giving up altogether.                              -Dr. Sapadin

KEEP GOING – Doing it right can be subjective.  Mistakes are bound to happen just remind yourself it doesn’t have to be perfect and if by chance you make a mistake, then remember just because you make a mistake doesn’t mean you are a mistake.   Keep going until the task is complete and refine it as you go along.  Certainly do it right and make certain you establish what right is and DO IT NOW!!


That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do, not that the nature of the thing has changed but that our power to do has increased.                                                                                                                       – Ralph Waldo Emerson

MAKE IT A HABIT – Discipline yourself to act now, and it will very soon become a habit.  With time, habit will lessen the need for discipline.  To be honest, this is more than dealing with In-A-Minute syndrome.  It is also about altering our self-image too.  It is very much about viewing ourselves as proactive, capable, action-oriented, and that we’re larger than any problems we face.  The resolve to do increases self-trust.  And the more we trust ourselves the more unstoppable we become.


I encourage you to make it a priority over the next 30 days to adopt this “DO IT NOW” mindset.  For the next 30 days, decide what needs to be done, get started, and keep going until the task is complete.  What a perfect way to start your new year.

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Cheers! ♥♥♥




What Consumes Your Mind?

what consumesI am readily becoming a HUGE fan of Mateusz videos.  They are so powerful and motivational.  I was about to abandon a long held vision because I was allowing my current circumstances to consume my mind rather than allowing my vision to consume my mind.

Therefore, I decided today to recommit to my vision.  After watching  Mateusz’s Vision video (see link below), I’m even more determined to drown out the noise and go for the gusto over the next seven days.  I have committed to blocking out the world and fasting solely on my vision that I have for my life.

I will allow my vision to consume my mind and it in turn will control my life this week.  I have the courage to dive into it with both feet and wholeheartedly align myself to using my imagination none stop for the next seven days and see myself becoming the person I want to be.

How do I plan to do this?  In the following way……

  1. Block out the noise.  I’m going into 100% solitude as much as I can…. meaning I will not entertain the venting, complaining, negativity, and/or whining from others or myself.  I have no shoulder for others to lean on this week and I will not lean on the shoulders of others.
  2. Change my mental diet. I will rid my life of distractions (Facebook, online forums, idle conversations, TV, etc) and will either invest my time in taking action to move me towards my vision and/or feed my mind with positive resources so that it is resilient and focused on my end goal.
  3. Harness my self talk.  Self talk equals reality. I will affirm over and over again what it is I see myself becoming and my self talk and outer conversation will 100% align with my vision.  I will speak only in terms of my vision being actualized.
  4. Act as if. I will spend time each day as an actor would rehearsing for his/her upcoming role and make it an Oscar worthy performance.  Not only will I spend the time acting as if, I will also research my role and make sure that I obtain all the information I need to fully embody my role in my vision.
  5. Meditate. I will invest a minimum of 15 minutes at least once daily meditating to quiet my conscious mind so that I can hear my inner voice of wisdom.  And to use this powerful alpha state to visualize and imagine my vision.

This Vision video by Mateusz really has helped me to jump-start my seven day mental fast to eat, sleep, dream, and breathe my vision.  It is my sincerest hope that it will do the same for you too!

What Are You Going to Do about It?


Powerful video.  It starts out slow but ends with a bang.  Often times things happen in life that leaves us feeling broken, hopeless, or some type of way that renders us immobilized.  Or we we’re working towards a goal that seems insurmountable and we’re starting wonder if we’ll get there and are considering just giving up and going back to status quo.

If you can relate, then this video is for you.  It will remind you that you are in control here.  Enjoy!