Do This to Sleep Better

Religious text admonishes us to not let the sun go down on our wrath. The mental state in which we fall asleep has a powerful, profound influence on our bodies.

Do not go to sleep until you have restored your mental balance, until your mental faculties are poised and your mind serene. It is more important to prepare the mind for sleep than the body. The mental bath is even more necessary than the physical one before bedtime.

Never allow yourself under any circumstances to retire in a discouraged, despondent, gloomy mood, or in a fit of anger. Practice making it a habit to let nothing tempt you to go to sleep with an unkind, critical, jealous thought toward another in your mind.

Make it your dominant intention each night to go to bed with a clean mental slate. Go to bed imagining yourself being the man or woman you long to become, filled with happiness, prosperity, and power. Saturate your mind with pleasant memories and with dreams of great expectations.

Be the master of your mind. Learn to control it, instead of allowing it to control you and torment you especially when it’s time for sweet slumber. Being persistent in preparing the mind for peaceful, healthful, happy, glorious sleep will prolong our lives and our youth.

Present Tense is a Present

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I can’t tell you how many different books I’ve read and the authors unanimously promote living in the now.  NOW! NOW! NOW! they all seem to be shouting at me from each and every book.  Yet I still struggled with my attention drifting to the past or fast forwarding into the future.  And not in a good way either.  No my time travel was more akin to the old adage if you’re feeling sad then you’re living in the past and if you’re feeling anxious then you’re living in the future.

Indeed it was like time travel too as it seems I would lose not only hours at a time but sometimes weeks, months, and years too.  All because I was mentally lazy/undisciplined and seemed to prefer to be anywhere other than in the present.  It’s just recently am I truly understanding the power of present tense and how much of a priceless present/gift to myself it is when I train and discipline myself to stay in the moment with the intent to milk it for all the goodness and productivity that it can possibly yield to me.

I have found it’s really on best for me to visit the past for two reasons…to uncover lessons to improve in the present and/or future or to relive good memories to enjoy good feelings in the present.  Likewise, it’s only advantageous for me to visit the future for two reasons…to create an end result/desire that I would like leverage the present tense to move me closer to or to make plans.

And that’s it …other than that all the juice, excitement, joy, love, freedom, passion, energy is right here right now!   And right here right now is where 100% of my attention needs to be unless I’m milking some sweet, sweet memory that makes me feel good all over, upping my game, making plans, or setting goals.

Even when it comes to my future desires, goals, and aspirations the present tense serves be a power pack present.  I have been regularly journaling using one of Abraham Hicks techniques which is to utilize the writing prompt ….”If I Had It My Way…”  And then answering it in present tense as if it is happening in this very moment.

The more days in a row I do this journal exercise the more excited,optimistic, energetic, free, appreciative, passionate, exuberant, expansive, and joyful I feel.  I will continue to show up each day milking the present for every present I can get from it.  Life is too short now to enjoy every second of it infusing it with as much love, joy, and laughter as we possibly can.  As my great aunt used to say…..”Live well while you can.”

Cheers! ♥♥♥

 

I Choose to Control the Way I Respond

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In any given situation we can react or we can respond.  It took me a long time to recognize the difference.  But I’m finally mastering it.  Whew!  Nevertheless, I have discover the power is in the pause.  Taking just that one moment to pause and think can make the difference between reacting versus responding.

When we react to adverse situations/outcomes, it typically comes from our insecurities or emotional wounds.  More than times than not, at least in my case, when choose to react things do not end favorably for all parties involved.  We either leave ourselves at a disadvantage and/or others.  When we react, it is an automatic kneejerk way of handling things.  I guess that’s why it’s call REact because we tend to do it over and over again until we choose a different way to respond.

I think most of us will agree that life events that leave us feeling like we have no control and/or is causing us to spiral out of control can be the most unsettling.  So how do we challenge ourselves to in controlling the way we respond when face with situations, people, outcomes beyond our control?  I thought you would never asked.

We can do one or more of the following.  By the way this is far from being an exhaustive list so feel free to drop your favorite way you challenge yourself in the comments because I’m all for learning more ways to practice control.  Here’s my short list:

  1. Wake up each day with the determination no matter what happens your number one priority is to feel good no matter what happens in your day.
  2. Reframe the situation in your mind by looking for the seed of benefit.  No matter what situation we are face with there is at least one positive aspect we can cling to and it’s our job to find it and keep giving thanks for it until the positive aspects begin to multiply and they will.
  3. Count our blessings.  Maybe it’s too difficult to find a positive aspect in whatever it is that’s beyond our control.  That’s when we have to count our blessings in  other areas of our lives.  We can give thanks for life itself, our limbs, our organs, our senses, our minds, our family, etc.  I think you get the picture.
  4. On a daily basis catch yourself in the act.  What are you thinking by default?  What are your pet peeves?  What are your do or die rules?  Where are you guilty of black and white thinking? Do you blame others constantly or do you take responsibility for what happens in your life and your outcomes? Are you in control of yourself? do you practice putting yourself in the other fella’s shoes to see how things look from their perspective?  Look for the breadcrumbs to figure out what causes your automatic reactions so that you can start to detect when the triggers are activated and press pause to figure out the best way to respond.
  5. Reflect on the ways you’ve been tripped up in the past and research and discover more win-win ways to handle it in the future.
  6. Learn the art of forgetting.  Sometimes we react because we have rehearsed stories from similar situations from our past which causes us to have extreme reactions whenever we feel we aren’t in control of something.
  7. Learn to let go of a need to control it.  Many times  wanting to be in control is resistance.  Learning to let go means we learn to surrender and understand that whatever is happening will somehow someway lead to our higher good and that it’s just a golden link in our chain.
  8. Imagine things working out in your favor by keeping a positive mindset and affirming a positive outcome and trust that Universe is always orchestrating on your behalf.
  9. Change your focus from what you cannot control to what you can either control or influence.

 

At the end of the day, it is most certain there will be times when things are out of our control, that’s the time to challenge ourselves on how we will choose to respond.  We always have control over how we choose to  respond.  Pause for the cause and choose to respond.   Remember to share your tips in the comments.  Thanks!